First Sunday of Lent
Fast forward to a couple of months ago. I was speaking with a friend who had pulled back from Facebook. This friend encouraged me to do the same simply as a way to disconnect from unnecessary time on social media. I agreed to limit my Facebook interactions to twice a day, and backed off of posting pictures and even birthday greetings (so in case you wondered why I didn’t tell you Happy Birthday on Facebook, that’s why). What I noticed startled me. I had grown so used to checking Facebook throughout the day, especially on my phone between activities or even while eating meals or watching TV, that my thumb almost naturally wanted to click on the app on my phone every time I went do to something else on my phone. My thumb seemed to automatically slide up over the app. It was at that moment that I knew I needed to disconnect majorly from Facebook, though I still post my homilies and post pictures for the parish through my desktop account. One of my Lenten practices is not to use the Facebook app on my phone at all.
I think the thing that made Facebook so alluring is that I had fomo: the fear of missing out. I also subconsciously wanted to brag about where I traveled, or wanted to keep track of the fun things other people did. Wishing people happy birthday or congratulating people on engagements or babies being born was a good use of Facebook. But even though my current phone was cordless, I certainly had created an invisible cord between me and my Facebook app that made it harder to back off of Facebook.
Lent is a perfect time to check the sins and unhealthy habits that have become like second nature to us. We might not think, at first, that some of our habits are such a big deal. We may even have good aspects that go along with unhealthy habits or sins, as no action is usually entirely bad. But as we begin our Lenten observances, taking a step back from things we know we don’t need but which we act like we do need them gives us a chance to focus more on love of God and neighbor. If you’re anything like me, there are probably things that are not, at their core, sinful. But they become sinful because we give them so much time and attention or we use them as a crutch to carry us through suffering that we don’t want to undergo. Think about abstinence from meat last Wednesday and on Fridays: objectively speaking, it’s not the biggest deal in the world not to eat meat on those days. We eat much more beef, poultry, and pork than any other generation in the history of the world. And yet, give us one day where we’re not allowed to do something, and sometimes we can go crazy. We may even enjoy fish or seafood on days when we get to choose it, but if the Church tells us we can’t do something, we can interiorly throw a temper tantrum that we can’t have what we want when we want it. When something we want is threatened, we can act quite irrationally. We become like Gollum in The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings who became so attached to the One Ring that it consumed him and made him crazy for the Ring, though the Ring didn’t care for him.
And in that regard our annual Lenten observances help us to clear away unnecessary things, of any kind, and help focus us more towards God. Again, they don’t have to be bad to be an unhealthy attachment. They can simply be neutral attachments that we make unhealthy because of our dependence on them.
And the key is not simply giving them up for 40 days, but where we go during those 40 days and where we go after that. During Lent, do we use the extra time or the sacrifices to draw us closer to God? Do we unite the ways in which we miss a certain type of food, or certain apps or online activities to the cross of Christ? And when Lent is over, will we go back to unhealthy attachments by splurging in those foods or apps, or might we recognize that we don’t have to use those things as much or at all in the future? There are so many different things we can give up that I can’t give a hard and fast rule for whether we need to drop something entirely from our lives or not. But it’s a good thing to consider.
As we hear our Lord go into the desert to fast and to be tempted, we, too, enter into the Lenten desert to leave behind us things that hinder our ability to live as the saints God wants us to be. Don’t let the fear of setting aside something beloved keep you from the greater love and relationship you can have with God by giving up something unnecessary, however precious you think it is. Lent helps us to remember what we heard in the Gospel, “‘The Lord, your God, shall you worship and him alone shall you serve.’” [The Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen].









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