Attachments

First Sunday of Lent

    [In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.  Amen].  When I was in college, Facebook was just starting to be a thing.  At first I refused to get on Facebook because I felt it tried to redefine the meaning of friend.  After a few years, however, I finally caved and set up my own account.  As the years progressed, I got more and more involved and I got sucked in to wanting to have a lot of Facebook friends, though I wanted to know the people in real life, not just online.  As a parish priest, this wasn’t too hard to do, as more and more people from the parish wanted to be Facebook friends.  When the diocese announced new assignments, I would get new requests from future parishioners who wanted to check out my personality via Facebook.  I started to post more and more pictures, and would give everyone a happy birthday greeting as Facebook reminded me.
    Fast forward to a couple of months ago.  I was speaking with a friend who had pulled back from Facebook.  This friend encouraged me to do the same simply as a way to disconnect from unnecessary time on social media.  I agreed to limit my Facebook interactions to twice a day, and backed off of posting pictures and even birthday greetings (so in case you wondered why I didn’t tell you Happy Birthday on Facebook, that’s why).  What I noticed startled me.  I had grown so used to checking Facebook throughout the day, especially on my phone between activities or even while eating meals or watching TV, that my thumb almost naturally wanted to click on the app on my phone every time I went do to something else on my phone.  My thumb seemed to automatically slide up over the app.  It was at that moment that I knew I needed to disconnect majorly from Facebook, though I still post my homilies and post pictures for the parish through my desktop account.  One of my Lenten practices is not to use the Facebook app on my phone at all.

    I think the thing that made Facebook so alluring is that I had fomo: the fear of missing out.  I also subconsciously wanted to brag about where I traveled, or wanted to keep track of the fun things other people did.  Wishing people happy birthday or congratulating people on engagements or babies being born was a good use of Facebook.  But even though my current phone was cordless, I certainly had created an invisible cord between me and my Facebook app that made it harder to back off of Facebook.
    Lent is a perfect time to check the sins and unhealthy habits that have become like second nature to us.  We might not think, at first, that some of our habits are such a big deal.  We may even have good aspects that go along with unhealthy habits or sins, as no action is usually entirely bad.  But as we begin our Lenten observances, taking a step back from things we know we don’t need but which we act like we do need them gives us a chance to focus more on love of God and neighbor.  If you’re anything like me, there are probably things that are not, at their core, sinful.  But they become sinful because we give them so much time and attention or we use them as a crutch to carry us through suffering that we don’t want to undergo.

    Think about abstinence from meat last Wednesday and on Fridays: objectively speaking, it’s not the biggest deal in the world not to eat meat on those days.  We eat much more beef, poultry, and pork than any other generation in the history of the world.  And yet, give us one day where we’re not allowed to do something, and sometimes we can go crazy.  We may even enjoy fish or seafood on days when we get to choose it, but if the Church tells us we can’t do something, we can interiorly throw a temper tantrum that we can’t have what we want when we want it.  When something we want is threatened, we can act quite irrationally.  We become like Gollum in The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings who became so attached to the One Ring that it consumed him and made him crazy for the Ring, though the Ring didn’t care for him.
    And in that regard our annual Lenten observances help us to clear away unnecessary things, of any kind, and help focus us more towards God.  Again, they don’t have to be bad to be an unhealthy attachment.  They can simply be neutral attachments that we make unhealthy because of our dependence on them.  
    And the key is not simply giving them up for 40 days, but where we go during those 40 days and where we go after that.  During Lent, do we use the extra time or the sacrifices to draw us closer to God?  Do we unite the ways in which we miss a certain type of food, or certain apps or online activities to the cross of Christ?  And when Lent is over, will we go back to unhealthy attachments by splurging in those foods or apps, or might we recognize that we don’t have to use those things as much or at all in the future?  There are so many different things we can give up that I can’t give a hard and fast rule for whether we need to drop something entirely from our lives or not.  But it’s a good thing to consider.  
    As we hear our Lord go into the desert to fast and to be tempted, we, too, enter into the Lenten desert to leave behind us things that hinder our ability to live as the saints God wants us to be.  Don’t let the fear of setting aside something beloved keep you from the greater love and relationship you can have with God by giving up something unnecessary, however precious you think it is.  Lent helps us to remember what we heard in the Gospel, “‘The Lord, your God, shall you worship and him alone shall you serve.’”  [The Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.  Amen].

Fighting Temptations and Healing Wounds

 First Sunday of/in Lent
    [In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.  Amen.]. Last week I did my taxes, and because I started to work partially in the City of Flint last calendar year (when I became pastor at St. Matthew), I have file taxes for Flint.  But, because I only worked part of the day in Flint last year, I had to see how many days I worked, and then how many of those days I worked in the City of Flint, to see how much of my wages Flint could tax.  As I looked through the year, week-by-week, I saw some of the highlights of the year, and also some of the lowlights.  My calendar connected me to memories, some of which were delightful, some of which were not so delightful.
    Many of those painful memories from last year were due to my own sinfulness and wounds that I have developed throughout my life, and the reactions that can sometimes happen when those wounds become irritated by the everyday happenings of life.  Some of my own wounds are the fear of abandonment, the desire to be wanted, and the desire to be successful.  You may have the same, or maybe very different, wounds and sins.  But we all have them.

Mount of Temptations in Israel

    As our Lord entered into His time of temptation in the desert, He took upon Himself, not His wounds or sins, because He didn’t have any, but He did take our wounds, sins, and temptations.   The three that He underwent might be categorized as temptations related to physical appetites, amazing feats, and power.  But Christ enters the desert to do battle with the devil, but also show us how to battle the devil with using the same tactics our Lord used.  
    Just as Jesus was in the desert for 40 days, so our 40 day Lenten pilgrimage allows us to grow closer to God and work on our sins and wounds.  As St. Paul says, now is the acceptable time for entering into this battle with our fallen self and with the devil, because now is the time of salvation.  Each day that we put off dealing with our wounds and sins is another day that the infection grows deeper, and becomes more painful when we want to debride the wound.
    So what does Christ show us?  First, He shows us that fighting wounds, temptations, and sins should be rooted in who we are.  Satan begins his temptations with: “If you are the Son of God.”  The enemy seeks to call into question who we are.  In order to fight our wounds, we need to recognize that we are the beloved children of God in the one Son of God, Jesus Christ.  When we operate out of that identity, we are less likely to seek our identity in lesser goods.  How easy it is for us to root our identity in who seems to want us, or what we have accomplished.  But those things are fleeting.  Friends can fall away; our achievements, especially if they are not rooted in God, can come crumbling down.  But God is the sure foundation upon Whom we can build our house and base our worth.  
    Secondly, Christ shows us that we should go to Scripture to fight against attacks of the devil.  Yes, Satan does quote Scripture in the passage we heard today, but Christ uses Scripture to show how Satan’s quotations of the Word of God is off.  Sometimes we are afraid of the Scriptures, and sometimes they are not readily clear or intelligible, or their meaning needs some unpacking by the Church’s magisterium, or teaching office.  But the Word of God is always a good place to go to fight off temptations, and you can reference the passages in the Catechism if you have questions about the deeper meaning.  Our psalm/gradual and tract from today, talks about how God will protect His servants.  That is what God does for us.  Our guardian angels want to fight off the temptations with us, and attack any of the fallen spirits that seek to do us harm.  Not even a lion or a dragon could stand a chance if we stay close to the Lord and trust in His power to keep us safe.  
    To resist sin and temptation, and to have our wounds healed, we need only ask God, and He will come to our aid.  God wants us to be holy and whole.  He knows how easy it is for us to operate out of false identities, not rooted in Christ, which then lead us to give in to temptation and fall into sin.  He knows beforehand what we often only find out after the fact: that giving in to temptation, sinning, and letting our wounds rule us is self-destructive and does not bring us happiness, even if it sometimes brings us passing pleasure.  
    Take advantage of this season of Lent.  Make this the acceptable time to be healed of sin and wounds through the Sacrament of Penance.  Ask God to help you to see where and why you hurt, and where and why you so easily fall into particular sins.  Those sins and wounds do not define you.  You are the beloved child of the Father, who with the Son and Holy Spirit live and reign for ever and ever.  Amen.